When it rains look for rainbows-quote by Oscar Wilde-rainbows-stars-positive thinking

When it rains look for rainbows

“When it rains look for rainbows, when it’s dark look for stars.” – Oscar Wilde

I came across this quote a few days ago and instantly loved it. For me, the quote says that we can find beauty and positives in our lives, even in the darkest of days. When it rains we get beautiful rainbows, and when it’s dark we get beautiful stars.

My life has been pretty tough for a few years, but I am now starting to come out of the other side. I’ve got Endometriosis and PCOS which seem to be worsening, affecting my quality of life. As a result of these two conditions, I  struggled to conceive a much-desired second baby.

Then, out of the blue, I found out I was pregnant. It should have been a magical time, but it wasn’t. I knew from the minute I saw the positive pregnancy test that there was a problem. It just didn’t feel right. Unfortunately, I was right, the pregnancy was ectopic.

A combination of my worsening health, infertility, and then the ectopic pregnancy meant that the weeks and months that followed found me reaching lows I didn’t think possible.

I struggled to accept what happened with the baby and was angry with the Universe. There were days I didn’t want to get out of bed or see anyone. I wondered how I’d get through the hours, never mind the days, weeks, and months. I became depressed, lost the joy in life, and somewhere along the way, I lost myself.

Weirdly, losing the baby made me appreciative of everything I already had in my life. This appreciation is definitely my rainbow and stars.

The quote is so relevant because a year on from the ectopic pregnancy, my life is so different. I feel like a different person completely. Some days are still a struggle, but I have mostly managed to move away from the dark and the rain clouds.

Coming across the quote was a reminder to continue to chase the rainbows and swim with the stars. The rain and dark were my health problems and the pregnancy loss. When I let myself look for rainbows and stars I was able to see that I already had everything I’d ever dreamed of; my daughter!

Yes, our journey may be tough at times, but there are always positives to be found if we are willing to look for them. Things will get easier; just take one step at a time and let yourself see the rainbows and stars over the rain and dark.

This really is one of my favourite quotes and I think I’ll always remember it. What are your favourite quotes?

Sam x



  • viewfromthebeachchair

    I can not imagine. I am so sorry for what you have been through. Thank you for sharing your story. #triumphanttales

  • Nicole - Tales from Mamaville

    Such a beautiful post Sam. So sorry to hear about the difficulties you’ve been facing but yes life is all about dancing in the rain, so to speak. I wish you all the best.

    Another quote I live by is: Life is what happens to you when you’re busy making other plans.


    • Sam

      Thank you lovely. I love the quote you mentioned too. It’s a great reminder to live and appreciate each day instead of just putting things off, isn’t it? X

  • tammymum

    You have had some really difficult times and this quote is perfect. I can imagine it is hard to find the rainbow when it is pouring but I am glad you found yours. Thanks for joining us at #familyfun

  • susankmann

    So sorry to hear you are going through such a difficult time. It is hard. I do use this quote often and taking pictures of the sky helps me a lot when I am having dark days. Have a look at my instagram and it might help. I feel for you and sending big hugs xx

  • Spectrum Mum

    You really have faced so much it is inspiring that you’ve been able to turn this around and find positives in what must have been an incredibly difficult time. #FamilyFun

    • Sam

      It’s hard to turn it around but I have to, at least for the sake of my daughter. I don’t want her standing in the rain because of me so I had to find positives. Thank you for your comment x

  • JakiJellz

    I had no idea Sam and I’m so sorry for your loss. I love this quote too and have found comfort from it on many an occasion. I’m so pleased you are in a better place at the moment and long may it continue. Kids are a Godsend aren’t they? Thank you for sharing this with #TriumphantTales, I hope you can join me again on Tuesday 🙂

    • Sam

      Kids really are a Godsend. I really don’t know where I’d be if it wasn’t for Molly. I should remind myself of that the next time she’s having a tantrum! Haha. Thank you Jaki. X

  • Lisa Pomerantz

    I am so happy to hear you are turning a corner and seeing, accepting the beauty that this life holds for us. Trust me, I know how hard it can be sometimes. Sending hugs your way! #triumphanttales xoxo

    • Sam

      Thank you for your lovely comment Lisa. And on Twitter too. Some days are still tough but I am getting there. There is no point dwelling on the negatives when, like you said, there is beauty in life. Thank you again. X

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