Balancing kids, home, and work is certainly no easy task – especially if you’re used to having more freedom and doing your own thing, but there are lots of ways you can create more time for yourself. It may take some discipline, and you’ll probably feel guilty at times, but you shouldn’t. You need to be taking care of yourself first, so that you can be there for your family.
Here are some suggestions on how to free up a bit of time each day, so you can focus on the important things, and learn to say no to the rest – there are only so many hours in the day, after all, and you can’t be everywhere.
Instead of waiting until dinner time each evening to decide what everyone will be eating, why not create a simple meal plan for the week and then take a few hours over the weekend to prep all of your food? You can create a master list for yourself using something like Trello, a physical meal planner, or even a smart home device like Alexa where you can verbally list out all the items you want added to a list and then you have it saved on your phone or computer for later use. Smart home devices are now so popular and can really help you stay organized in a lot of areas, so if you find you could use some extra help with this, then take a look at this smart homes guide to see if one could work for you.
You’re still feeding your family home cooked food, but are cutting down on the time spent cooking and preparing it. Most things can be frozen, so all you need to do is take out the meal for that evening, and add in some rice, pasta, or whatever else you choose.
When you have small children, the last place you feel like going with them is the supermarket, and if you only have time on the weekend or after work to do this, then you’ll definitely feel like you don’t get a minute to yourself. Instead, find a supermarket you like who allows you to shop online. Most places do, and will usually offer free delivery above a certain spend. You can also save shopping lists, so you don’t have to start from scratch each time – online shopping has been a big timesaver for many parents, so instead of stressful supermarket trips, give yourself 20 minutes a week when the kids are in bed to get your shopping done.
Ask For Help
As mothers, we have this crazy idea that we’re supposed to be some kind of superwoman, but not only will this lead to burnout, it’s downright unrealistic and just not true. Don’t be afraid to ask for help with the things you need. Most family members and friends are all too happy to help. Hire a cleaner if you need some help around the house. These services were invented to help, so make use of them when you need to. You can’t do everything with only so many hours in the day.
Practice Self Care
Whether it’s a weekly date night with your partner, or a trip to the cinema with the girls, or even just an hour at a nice cafe with a book on your own, these little things will revitalize you and give you more energy so that when you have that time with your kids, you enjoy it even more. Your family needs you to be taking caring of you, so you don’t have to feel like it’s selfish – it’s simply necessary.